It’s Day 3, and therefore time to recommend a book. As it happens, this recommendation dovetails nicely into something else I’ve been wanting to do on this blog. First, let’s look at the book I’ve chosen:
This is the Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron (check out her website here.)
Now, on to the thing I’ve been wanting to do here. *deep breath*
I am a Highly Sensitive Person.
This is what Elaine says to HSPs just learning about the trait:
“If you find you are highly sensitive, or your child is, you need to begin by knowing the following:
Your trait is normal. It is found in 15 to 20% of the population–too many to be a disorder, but not enough to be well understood by the majority of those around you.
It is innate. In fact, biologists have found it to be in most or all animals, from fruit flies and fish to dogs, cats, horses, and primates. This trait reflects a certain type of survival strategy, being observant before acting. The brains of highly sensitive persons (HSPs) actually work a little differently than others’.
You are more aware than others of subtleties. This is mainly because your brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. So even if you wear glasses, for example, you see more than others by noticing more.
You are also more easily overwhelmed. If you notice everything, you are naturally going to be overstimulated when things are too intense, complex, chaotic, or novel for a long time.
This trait is not a new discovery, but it has been misunderstood. Because HSPs prefer to look before entering new situations, they are often called “shy.” But shyness is learned, not innate. In fact, 30% of HSPs are extraverts, although the trait is often mislabeled as introversion. It has also been called inhibitedness, fearfulness, or neuroticism. Some HSPs behave in these ways, but it is not innate to do so and not the basic trait.
Sensitivity is valued differently in different cultures. In cultures where it is not valued, HSPs tend to have low self-esteem. They are told “don’t be so sensitive” so that they feel abnormal.”
Think you might be an HSP? Take the self-test.
Now, apart from outing myself as an HSP, I also chose this book to talk about today because I’m planning to read it cover to cover soon and post my reflections on it here, chapter by chapter. This book changed my life. Perhaps there are other folks out there who would like to discover, “I’m not crazy, just different.” And that’s always nice to learn. Check back soon to join me on my journey.
